7 Golden Rules Of Making That Phone Call

7 Golden Rules Of Making That Phone Call

So you've finally managed to get the phone number of your latest crush. But that's only half the job done, for that first phone call will decide if you're getting any closer

Telephone etiquette plays an important role in forming a general impression of the person on the other end of the line. In fact, many conversation disasters can be avoided if one thinks before dialling. So if you are thinking of making that phone call, here are some tips that might help make a simple phone number your lucky number.

1. Short and sweet:

It is important to give the impression that you lead a full, active life even though you might be otherwise unemployed. By keeping your initial telephone conversations brief, you will give the person the impression that you are busy and in demand. Also, if you are always the one ending the conversations, it will keep you in a position of control, leaving them wanting more and more of your time.

2. Leave them high:

People usually remember what you say last. Therefore, its important that you prepare well for the ending conversation. Before ending the conversation, make an effort to leave on a positive note, such as with a well thought-out joke or a funny story. Even if your entire telephone conversation went poorly, if you leave them smiling before saying goodbye, they are more likely to want to speak to you again and hopefully see you in person which, of course, is your ultimate goal.

3. Add Purpose:

Don't just call to chitchat. Remember the three things you need to do before making that call: preparation, preparation, preparation. Be armed and ready with a purpose to your call (the most likely purpose being to meet up); this will give them the impression that you are assertive (this one is especially for you women) and thoughtful enough to think of a plan beforehand. This plan will also serve as a backup weapon should there be an awkward silence in the conversation.

4. Be Positive:

It doesn't matter if your boss is disrespectful or your co-worker is incompetent complaints are a real turnoff, especially in the early stages of a relationship. Once in a while is ok, but the truth is that they probably won't stick around if you're all about gloom and negativity. You can avoid looking needy by keeping your emotional baggage to yourself, at least at the beginning. Make a concerted effort to keep all conversations positive.

5. Leave a message only on the second call:

You should avoid leaving a message on the first call; it may make you seem too needy. This is the most important rule and should not be tampered with: If the person doesn't answer your first call, hang up without leaving a message and try again later. Upon the second phone call, leave a message, and don't call again until they get back to you. By not calling more than twice, you not only avoid the appearance of desperation, but you also throw the ball into their court and get the chance to gauge their interest in you.

6. Time your call well:

Phone calls during working hours are a complete no-no. If you take time off from work to call them, they'll know you have them on your mind. Also, they might not be as receptive to your phone call in the midst of coworkers and bosses. If you'd like to set up a date for the weekend, call by Wednesday. Avoid Friday and Saturday night phone calls at all costs; even if you are at home watching a movie by yourself. They don't need to know that.

7. Stick to the point when leaving messages:

Don't leave long, rambling messages on their voicemail. Picture this: Every message you leave on their voicemail could potentially be played back and analysed several times over. The contents can then become the subject of discussion with their friends. Therefore, your best defense against a disastrous message is briefness. Identify yourself by name, then get to the point. Leave one phone number where you can be reached, but don't leave your contact number, address, e-mail and so on this will just seem too desperate.